We are always reaching, always chasing, always looking toward some imagined horizon where everything will finally make sense. The perfect job, the perfect relationship, the perfect body, the perfect bank balance, the perfect home. A place where all the chaos settles, and we arrive.
We live in a world obsessed with destinations. We are told from a young age that life is a path, a journey toward some distant place where we will finally feel whole, satisfied, and complete. That “place” might be success, wealth, love, enlightenment, or a peaceful retirement by the sea.
But what if there is no “there”?
What if we have been conditioned to believe in a mirage—an illusion that once we reach some undefined pinnacle, all will be well, and we will finally breathe easy? The truth is, whenever we get to where we thought we wanted to be, there’s always another peak in the distance, another valley to cross, another dream to chase. Life is not a straight line leading to fulfillment; it is a continual unfolding of moments—now here or nowhere, depending on how we choose to see it.
If you take the word nowhere and break it apart, you get now here. It’s a simple shift in perspective but one that holds the key to everything. All we ever have is now, and all we ever are is here. The past is a memory, the future is an idea, and neither exist beyond this exact moment.
So why do we spend so much of our lives trying to get somewhere else?
The Illusion of Arrival
Society sells us the idea that fulfillment is a place, a destination, an achievement. But if you’ve ever actually reached one of your long-awaited goals, you know the truth: the moment is fleeting. You celebrate, you exhale, you might even feel deeply satisfied: for a while. But then, a new mountain appears. A new desire forms. The horizon moves again.
It’s not that striving is wrong. Growth is part of the human experience, and the journey itself is beautiful. But the belief that happiness, peace, or fulfillment live at the peak of some future moment is a lie. Because once you climb a mountain, what do you see? More mountains. More valleys. More paths to take. And you keep moving.
Some mountains you climb alone. Some, you climb with a group of friends who become family along the way. Some trails are celebrations, filled with laughter and music. Others are quiet, solitary walks through deep valleys. And then there are those sacred climbs where the silence is so profound it feels like the universe itself is whispering to you.
The journey never ends. And that is exactly why we must learn to love the moment we are in.
The Sacred Connection to Soul
What if the soul doesn’t care about arrival? What if our essence, the deepest part of who we are, only exists in presence?
Think of the most meaningful moments in your life—not the ones you planned, but the ones that caught you off guard. The laugh that turned into tears. The unexpected kindness of a stranger. The morning light hitting your coffee cup just right. The night you lay on your back staring at the stars, watching satellites drift silently across the sky, feeling both infinitely small and deeply connected to it all.
These moments are sacred because they are now.
Your soul is not waiting for you at the next peak. It’s whispering to you here, in the space between thoughts, in the quiet of your breath, in the rhythm of your bare feet pressing into the earth.
Practicing Presence: Small Rituals, Big Impact
Mindfulness doesn’t have to be a grand, time-consuming practice. It’s not about escaping to a monastery or meditating for hours (though if that’s your thing, go for it). It’s about simple, intentional ways to root yourself in the now. Here are three daily practices that help cultivate presence:
1. Barefoot on the Grass with a Banana
Every day, I take a banana and walk barefoot on the grass. It sounds simple, even silly, but it’s a ritual that pulls me into my body. The sensation of the earth beneath my feet, the taste of the banana, the air on my skin—it reminds me that I am alive, not just a mind running in circles. This is a grounding practice, literally connecting you to the earth and figuratively pulling you out of the endless loop of thoughts about somewhere else.
2. Staring at the Stars, Finding Satellites
At night, I try to look up. Not at a screen, not at the endless distractions of modern life, but at the vast sky above me. I search for satellites drifting across the darkness, for stars that have been burning for millions of years. It’s a reminder that my worries, my ambitions, my “there” is small in the grand scheme of things. Not insignificant—but small enough that I can relax a little, breathe a little deeper, and exist without the constant need to strive.
3. The “This Is It” Practice
Throughout the day, pause and tell yourself: This is it. Not in a this is all there is? kind of way, but in a this moment is enough way. Washing the dishes? This is it. Laughing with a friend? This is it. Sitting in traffic, feeling the weight of the world on your shoulders? This is it. This practice trains your mind to stop resisting the present moment and instead see it for what it is: sacred, fleeting, real.
Living Without a Destination
Of course, it’s okay to dream. It’s okay to set goals, to move forward, to seek new experiences. But do it knowing that the point was never to arrive.
The point is to be here while you go.
If we live always waiting for “there,” we will miss the sacred, messy, beautiful now. The laughter, the grief, the lessons, the sunsets, the random Tuesday afternoons where nothing extraordinary happens—but somehow, in that nothingness, we catch a glimpse of what it means to truly be alive.
So walk barefoot. Eat your banana. Look at the stars. Climb your mountains. Dance with your companions. Sit in your valleys. And most of all, remember:
We all wear masks: the roles we play, the illusions we believe, and the stories we tell ourselves about who we have to be. But at some point, we wake up to the realization that something feels off. The roles we’ve assumed no longer fit, and we crave something deeper—something more true. This post is about that journey. It’s about stripping away what no longer serves us and stepping into the fullness of who we are.
Recently, I went through this process myself by asking ten deeply reflective questions designed to uncover the masks I was wearing and the illusions I had accepted as reality. I want to share my experience with you, in the hope that it inspires you to take this journey for yourself.
At the end of this post, I’ll include the exact prompt I used so that you, too, can embark on this powerful exercise.
The Tension Between Who I Am and Who I’ve Become
When I sat down to answer the first question, it became clear that something in my life felt out of alignment. I poured myself a whiskey and settled into this process, this journey.
I realized that my daily work, my job — admin-heavy, computer-based, and with little human interaction — was far from the life I once envisioned. I used to see myself as a leader, someone who thrived in the presence of others, working in teams. I loved music, playing guitar, and singing, yet I had completely abandoned those passions. Instead, my life had become about work and responsibilities, primarily because it provided financial stability for my family. And while I’m grateful for that stability, I couldn’t help but wonder: Have I sacrificed too much? Have I missed it?
That’s when I uncovered a deep-seated belief: that I had to choose one path in life—that I couldn’t be both creative and practical, a provider and an artist, a leader and an introvert. But was that actually true? Or was I limiting myself?
Reclaiming the Full Spectrum of Who I Am
Through this process, I realized that I am many things:
A gentle, creative soul who deeply values connection.
Someone who longs to make sure others feel like they belong.
A father who cherishes the time spent with his kids.
A person who loves nature, singing harmonies to songs, and walking barefoot.
Yet, I had been boxing myself into a single definition, letting societal expectations dictate what was “acceptable” to pursue. And when I traced this belief back, I saw its roots in childhood. I grew up in a system that taught me I had to choose one career, one path, and stick with it. I didn’t see my parents having hobbies—they worked, and that was it. Somewhere along the way, I absorbed the message that joy and self-expression were secondary to duty.
But that’s simply not true.
I can be creative and responsible. I can be introverted and still connect deeply with others. I can make time for music, art, and writing just because they bring me joy—not because they need to be monetized or shared with the world.
Breaking the Cycle of Self-Neglect
One of the most eye-opening realizations was how much I had been neglecting the things that brought me joy. When I imagined a life without external pressures, I saw myself:
Reading more.
Playing music again.
Taking long, quiet walks.
Painting and writing simply because I want to.
Building more meaningful connections.
Yet, my first instinct was to say, But I don’t have time.
That’s when I had to call myself out: That’s an excuse.
The truth is, even with work and parenting, I can carve out 10 minutes a day for something that fuels my soul. And those small moments of creativity and presence add up.
But then came the resistance: What if I’m not good enough? What if I pick up the guitar and realize I’ve lost my skill? What if no one cares about what I write?
That’s when I had to confront the harshest truth of all: I had been holding myself back out of fear—fear of judgment, fear of failing, fear of not being seen the way I wanted to be seen.
Rewriting the Story
To move forward, I had to shift my mindset. Instead of creating for validation, I had to start creating for myself. Instead of seeking external approval, I had to recognize my own worth. And instead of thinking in extremes (all or nothing, success or failure), I had to embrace the in-between—the simple joy of doing something because I can.
I decided to make small, manageable changes:
10 minutes a day dedicated to something just for me.
Letting go of outcomes—playing music, painting, or writing with no intention of sharing it.
Practicing saying no to things that drain me.
Physically taking up space—stretching, breathing deeply, reminding myself that I belong.
Teaching my kids by example—so they grow up knowing that joy and rest are just as important as work.
Daily Affirmations for Growth
As I stepped into this new mindset, I created daily affirmations to keep me grounded:
My needs and wants matter. I am worthy of joy.
I am allowed to take up space. I stretch, I breathe, I exist fully.
I am not limited to one path. I am allowed to evolve and change.
Creativity is my birthright. I create because I am alive.
I choose to listen to the voices that believe in me.
A Message from My Higher Self
As I reflected on this journey, I imagined what my higher self—the wisest, most whole version of me—would say:
“You have carried burdens that were never meant to be yours, but now, you are awakening. The boy who longed to be chosen is now a man who can choose himself. You no longer need permission to take up space. The world is not waiting for you to be one thing—it is waiting for you to embrace all that you are. Stretch to the heavens. Breathe deeply. Take up space. This is your life—live it fully.”
Want to Take This Journey Yourself?
If this resonated with you, I encourage you to embark on your own journey of self-discovery using the same exercise I did.
Here’s the exact prompt I gave to ChatGPT:
“I want to uncover the masks that I am currently wearing, the roles I’m playing, and the illusions I’m believing. Please guide me through this process by asking me 10 reflective questions one at a time to help me recognize the stories I’m telling myself. After I answer the 10th question, please step into the role of my higher self and analyze my responses. Identify the top negative patterns present in my life and the top positive patterns I can embrace and grow. Be direct and truthful; tough love is welcomed. Please provide me with daily affirmations to support my growth, actionable steps to change my behaviors, and embody my most authentic self. And a message of encouragement from my higher self to celebrate how far I’ve come on my journey.”
If you decide to do this, be honest with yourself. Let it be messy, let it be raw, and let it be real.
You deserve to take up space. You deserve to be fully, unapologetically you.
Final Thoughts
I hope this journey inspires you as much as it has transformed me. If you take the leap, let me know how it goes. Remember: You are allowed to evolve. You are allowed to take up space. You are allowed to be.
Stretch your arms to the heavens. Breathe. You belong here.
As we move through February, I’ve been thinking a lot about the heart—about what happens when we offer our creations, our choices, our acts of living to its altar. It’s been sitting with me, this idea of heart-led living, as I navigate my own evolution and process; both personally and in my work. Lately, I’ve been noticing where I let my mind take too much control and where I allow my heart to lead me instead. SO much of of “work” leads and lends itself to my computer and my head, but I can hear my heart tugging, what’s next, let me try say something, could I have a go…
It’s a delicate balance, isn’t it? The mind is brilliant at organizing, strategizing, and making sense of things, but when it takes over completely, we risk losing the essence of what truly matters. Our work can become mechanical, our relationships can feel transactional, and the things we once felt passionate about can start to feel like obligations. When that happens, I think we lose the plot. The things we create: whether it’s a project, a conversation, a moment of connection—can start to feel hollow. But when we create, love, and live from the heart, everything feels richer, fuller, more alive.
I’ve been especially aware of this when it comes to raising my kids. As Daniel and Elizabeth grow, I can feel the tug-of-war between my mind and my heart more than ever. My mind wants to teach them discipline, structure, and logic—the tools they’ll need to navigate the world. But my heart? My heart just wants to love them well. To be present. To help them feel safe, seen, and understood. I want them to know that beyond all the lessons, expectations, and rules, the most important thing is love—the kind of love that makes space, that listens deeply, that leads with kindness.
And yet, like with everything else, it’s so easy to get caught up in thinking too much about the “right” way to parent, to guide, to lead. The more I try to strategize, the more I feel like I’m missing the point. But when I slow down, when I let my heart lead, things become simpler. I listen more. I hold them closer. I see them for who they are right now, instead of who I think they should be. And it makes me wonder—how much more of my life could be transformed if I just let my heart have more of a say?
I found myself in a bit of a mental spiral the other day—overanalyzing, overthinking, trying to solve something by sheer force of logic. And I could feel it, all the energy rushing to my head, my thoughts getting louder, more tangled. So, I decided to go outside for a long walk, always barefoot and with a banana in hand. As I walked, I heard this small, quiet voice inside telling me to breathe into my heart space. To expand it toward the sky, toward the world around me. Feel the wind in my hair, the sun on my skin, the sound of the earth. It felt like an act of generosity, like giving myself permission to stop figuring everything out and just be for a moment. (We are human beings and not human doings after all)
And so I let my heart shine. I let the light pour into it, filling it with warmth. I brought my worries, my uncertainties, my restless thoughts before it, seeking its wisdom. And in doing so, I found clarity—not through analysis, but through feeling. My heart gave me an answer that my mind never could, one that felt open, expansive, and limitless.
The heart, I’ve realized, holds an intelligence all its own. It doesn’t strategize or plan the way the mind does (and thank you, brain—we do appreciate you!). Instead, it speaks in simpler words, in quiet honesty, in a language of generosity. It may not always be linear or logical, but it is always true.
In a world that often celebrates the loud, the fast, and the calculated, we forget that wisdom is not always found in the sharpness of the mind but in the depth of the heart. Susan Cain, in Quiet, reminds us:
“Solitude matters, and for some people, it’s the air they breathe.”
It is in those still, unguarded moments—when we are quiet enough to listen—that the heart’s intelligence emerges. The heart does not demand; it invites. It does not argue; it knows.
Similarly, Paulo Coelho, in The Alchemist, speaks of the heart as a compass, a guide that always seeks truth, here quoting The New Testament:
“Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure.”
The mind may try to predict, protect, and rationalize every decision, but the heart moves toward something deeper; toward meaning, connection, and purpose. Its language is not efficiency, but essence. It is the voice that whispers when the world shouts. It is the pull toward an unseen destination when logic says stay put.
The heart’s intelligence is not measured in strategies or calculations, but in its unwavering commitment to what truly matters. It is the quiet knowing that kindness is never wasted, that love is worth the risk, and that sometimes, the most powerful thing we can do is simply trust the direction it points us in.
Perhaps, as we navigate our days, we might do well to give both mind and heart their due. To let the brain structure the journey, but to let the heart choose the road. Because while the mind may be brilliant, the heart is wise. And wisdom, after all, is what leads us home. She gently holds us by the hand and walks us Home.
So, this week, I wonder if this small practice might serve you too. If something has been weighing on you—a decision, a creative block, a challenge you’re trying to untangle—perhaps you could place it in the hands of your heart for a while. Give your mind a break. Let your heart have its say.
Why Human Emotion, Touch, and Art Are More Vital Than Ever
We live in what many call the Information Age, a time defined by rapid technological advancement, artificial intelligence, and instant access to knowledge. The world has never been more interconnected through data, yet paradoxically, people have never felt more isolated. COVID accelerated this disconnection, forcing society into digital interactions where physical touch and human presence were restricted. Now, with the exponential rise of AI, our reality is shifting faster than ever before…
The rate of technological change is frightening. What once took decades to develop now evolves in a couple months. We used to marvel at the leaps between industrial revolutions; now, we barely have time to process one massive shift before another is upon us. AI models improve at an astonishing rate: faster, smarter and more integrated into our lives. We went from basic chatbots to human-like conversations in a handful of years. Creativity, thought, and even companionship are becoming increasingly artificial, raising the question: Are we heading toward a future where AI shapes not just how we work, but how we love, how we believe, how we parent?
And then, there’s Elon Musk’s offer to buy OpenAI—a move that underscores how AI isn’t just a tool anymore; it’s a battleground. Whether he succeeds or not, the very fact that the conversation is happening reveals the weight AI carries in shaping the world ahead. Will it be open-source for all, or controlled by a few? Is AI going to be a liberator, or a force that consolidates power in the hands of the wealthiest, dictating not just markets but human behavior itself?
It feels like we’re chasing down iRobot and Wall-E and even Terminator: stories we once thought were fiction but now eerily resemble our present trajectory. We imagine AI as the loyal assistant (iRobot’s Sonny), but what if it becomes the controlling force that decides what’s best for us? And what about Wall-E, where humanity has become so dependent on automation that they’ve lost touch with the world itself? Are we so obsessed with optimizing and automating that we’re forgetting to actually live? And then please don’t even get me started on the new ATLAS movie with JLo.
As a dad, these questions weigh heavily on me. I want my kids to grow up in a world where they still experience wonder in nature, where they don’t measure their worth by algorithmic validation, where they develop real resilience, not just the ability to outthink a machine. Maybe that means doing something radical, like selling everything, buying a boat, and sailing around the world for a few years. Maybe the only way to truly give them a childhood free from constant digital noise is to step away from the grid entirely.
Because at the heart of all this, in between all the algorithms and automation, is the simple truth that human emotion (heart), touch (caring), and art (soul) remain fundamental to our existence. More than ever, these aspects of life aren’t just important; they are the only things that make us human. And if we don’t fight to preserve them, we risk losing something AI can never replicate: the beauty of simply being alive.
“Beauty will save the world” – Fyodor Dostoevsky
The Pandemic and the Loss of Physical Connection
During the pandemic, society experienced a forced detachment from human touch. Suddenly, shaking hands, hugging, or even sitting close to someone became a potential threat. This had profound psychological effects—studies show, and I have experienced it firsthand, that the lack of physical touch leads to increased anxiety, depression, and feelings of loneliness. We are are wired for connection, and deprivation of touch disrupts our ability to regulate emotions and find comfort in others. When I was a pastor in the Methodist church, in the traditional service, the older community, wouldn’t move during worship. But then. When it got to the benediction, they would hold hands and sway and swing together. It made no sense to me as a 21 year old pastor who knew everything. When one day I spoke to a lady, who told me her story, her husband passes away. And no one touches her anymore. When she comes to church, someone holds her hand.
In Biblical narratives, Jesus’ miracles often involved touch. One particularly striking instance is in Mark 8:22-25, where Jesus heals a blind man in Bethsaida. Unlike the other healings, this one required two touches before the man’s sight was fully restored. This passage is deeply symbolic—perhaps a reflection of how healing, both physical and emotional, is often a process rather than an instant event. It suggests that touch is not merely a physical act but a conduit for transformation and restoration. The pandemic revealed how much we rely on these physical interactions, not only for health but for our sense of being fully human.
This passage also invites us to reconsider how we engage with others. In a world where people are increasingly overlooked, we need to take the time, often twice, to check in with people. True care involves noticing when someone is struggling, asking if they are okay, and following up—not just once, but twice, maybe even three times. Jesus’ second touch suggests persistence in healing and restoration, a reminder that our first attempt to connect with or help someone may not be enough. The first time we ask, someone might say they’re fine out of habit, but asking again, showing genuine concern, and taking time to truly listen can create space for deeper healing and connection. In this fast-paced digital age, where interactions are fleeting and surface-level, we must be intentional about seeing people—not just glancing at their social media posts but truly seeing them, engaging with them, and being present in their lives.
The Healing Power of Touch: More Than a Sensory Experience
Research has long supported the idea that human touch is fundamental to emotional well-being and physical health. Unlike technology-driven interactions, which are primarily cognitive, touch-based interactions stimulate deep emotional and neurological responses that are essential for human flourishing.
A groundbreaking study by Tiffany Field, director of the Touch Research Institute at the University of Miami, has shown that physical touch, such as hugs, hand-holding, and even a pat on the back, releases oxytocin, the “love hormone” (Field, 2010). Oxytocin plays a crucial role in social bonding, stress reduction, and overall emotional resilience. Moreover, touch decreases cortisol levels, the primary stress hormone, helping to regulate emotions and reduce anxiety (Drescher, 2015).
In infants, touch is critical for development—premature babies in NICUs who receive skin-to-skin contact through “kangaroo care” show higher survival rates, improved weight gain, and stronger emotional bonding with caregivers (Feldman et al., 2014). In adults, studies have found that massages, hugs, and affectionate touch can lower heart rate, boost immune function, and improve mental well-being (Ditzen et al., 2007).
Yet, despite this wealth of evidence, we live in a world where physical touch is becoming increasingly scarce. Remote work, social distancing, and digital communication have led to a world in which many people, especially those living alone, experience “touch starvation”, a term used by psychologists to describe the emotional distress caused by a lack of physical connection (Von Mohr et al., 2020).
When we prioritize efficiency over intimacy, we inadvertently starve ourselves of one of the most fundamental forms of human connection.
Reclaiming the Heart in an Efficiency-Driven World
We stand at a crossroads. While technological advancements continue to propel us forward, we must resist the temptation to prioritize efficiency at the cost of emotional depth.
Prioritize in-person interactions whenever possible—whether it’s a dinner with family, a coffee catch-up with a friend, or simply being present without digital distractions.
Reintroduce physical touch into daily life—hugs, handshakes, and even a reassuring pat on the shoulder carry immense emotional benefits.
Create intentional spaces for community—whether through faith groups, sports teams, neighborhood gatherings, or shared creative endeavors, meaningful relationships must be nurtured.
Set boundaries with digital communication—use technology as a tool rather than a substitute for real connection.
As we navigate a future shaped by AI, automation, and digital spaces, we must remember that the mind and the heart must work in harmony. Progress should not come at the cost of losing what makes us truly human. The challenge is not rejecting technology but ensuring that we do not forget the irreplaceable power of love, touch, and community in the process.
As Paul reminds us in 1 Corinthians 13:2, “If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.” Knowledge alone does not sustain human existence; love—expressed through relationships, care, and understanding—is what gives life meaning. In a society that values intellect and data above all else, we risk losing the essence of what makes us human.
HE(Art) and Soul: The Forgotten Necessity
Art has always been an essential part of the human experience, reflecting our deepest joys, sorrows, and spiritual longings. Throughout history, art has served as a means of expressing the inexpressible. Whether through music, painting, literature, or dance, art allows us to connect with ourselves and others in ways that words often fail.
Yet, in an age where productivity is prioritized over presence, and where content is consumed in bite-sized digital formats, art is often reduced to mere entertainment rather than a profound means of connection. The psalms of David, the parables of Jesus, and the stained-glass windows of medieval cathedrals all remind us that art is a bridge between the seen and the unseen, the mind and the soul. Without it, we risk becoming a society that is intellectually advanced but spiritually hollow.
In our modern world, where efficiency is king and stillness is rare, we may have forgotten the necessity of art. We treat it as a luxury when, in fact, it has always been a lifeline. Art is not just decoration for life—it is an essential thread woven into our very being. When we lose sight of this, we risk losing something vital: the ability to feel deeply, to question boldly, and to imagine freely. We risk losing the soul of our culture.
Perhaps, just maybe, the most beautiful things do come from the most difficult places. And if that is true, then our moments of hardship are not just to be endured but to be transformed. Through music, poetry, painting, and storytelling, we shape the pain into something more—something that lasts beyond us. In doing so, we remind ourselves that even in darkness, beauty is still possible, and perhaps, it is there that beauty is most necessary.
May you hold onto the things that make us deeply and beautifully human—love, touch, art, and presence. As we navigate an increasingly digital and automated world, may you resist the pull toward efficiency at the cost of intimacy, and may you fight for the moments that truly matter. May you embrace the power of human connection, the wonder of creativity, and the sacredness of simply being alive. And in the face of uncertainty, may you always find beauty—especially in the places you least expect it.
It’s not uncommon to fall into the trap of thinking that our jobs define who we are. Society places a great deal of value on productivity and career success, and it’s easy to get caught up in the idea that our worth is tied to our work.
If you’ve been feeling like your job is everything, it’s possible that you’ve been mixing up your feelings about your work with your sense of self-worth and calling. You may have come to believe that your job is the only thing that gives your life meaning or purpose, and that without it, you’re nothing. (If you’re wondering, yes, I’m speaking about myself)
This kind of thinking can be toxic and damaging to your mental health. It can lead to feelings of anxiety, stress, and even depression. You may find yourself working longer hours, taking on more responsibilities, and sacrificing your personal life in order to succeed in your job. (If you’re wondering, yes, I’m speaking about myself)
Over time, this can lead to burnout, exhaustion, and a sense of disillusionment. You may start to feel like you’re stuck in a job you hate, but you can’t leave because you’ve tied your identity and sense of self-worth to it. (If you’re wondering, yes, I’m speaking about myself)
The truth is that you are much more than your job. Your worth and value come from who you are as a person, not from your job title or your salary. You have unique talents, passions, and interests that make you who you are, and it’s important to cultivate those things outside of work.
If you’re feeling like you’re having an identity crisis now that you don’t have a job, it’s important to take some time to reflect on who you are and what you want out of life. What are your values, your goals, and your dreams? What makes you happy and fulfilled? What are your strengths and weaknesses? (If you’re wondering, yes, I’m speaking about myself)
By answering these questions, you can start to build a stronger sense of self and a clearer sense of direction. You may find that you want to pursue a different career path or that you want to focus on a hobby or passion outside of work. You may even discover that your true calling lies in something completely different from your previous job.
Ultimately, the key is to remember that you are not your job. Your job may be a part of your life, but it does not define you. You are a complex, multifaceted person with many talents and interests, and it’s important to honor and nurture all aspects of yourself, both inside and outside of work.
What are we called to?
For many of us, we may have been brought up to believe that our vocation is our calling, and that our work is our purpose. This can be a confusing message, especially when we start to feel unfulfilled or unhappy in our jobs. We may start to question our worth or feel like we are failing at life. However, the truth is that our calling is much greater than any job could ever be.
God calls us to be compassionate, loving, and kind to one another. He calls us to be the best versions of ourselves and to use our talents and abilities to make a positive impact on the world around us. Our calling is not limited to our jobs or career paths. We can fulfill our calling in any area of our lives, whether it be through volunteering, serving our communities, or simply being a good friend or neighbor.
It is important to remember that our identity is not tied to our job or career. We are complex individuals with unique talents, passions, and experiences that make us who we are. Our jobs may be a part of our lives, but they do not define us. We are much more than what we do for a living.
Psalm 139:13-14 – “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” This verse speaks to the idea that we are fearfully and wonderfully made by God, with unique talents and abilities that make us who we are.
As a content creator, there are few things more frustrating than experiencing creator’s block or feeling insecure about your work. These feelings can be discouraging and can often lead to a lack of motivation and inspiration. However, it’s important to remember that these struggles are a normal part of the creative process and that it’s okay to feel this way from time to time.
I did a video sharing some of my thoughts and process here
One way to overcome creator’s block and feelings of insecurity is to be honest and vulnerable with yourself and your audience. Acknowledge that you’re struggling and talk about it openly. This can be a scary thing to do, but it can also be incredibly empowering. When you share your struggles, you show that you’re human and that you’re not perfect. This can help you connect with your audience on a deeper level and build trust and loyalty.
In many ways, being a content creator is like going to the gym. It’s easy to consume junk food and sit on the couch all day, but we all know that’s not a healthy or fulfilling way to live. When we get into a good routine of fitness, we start to crave healthy foods and physical activity. We want to stay away from junk food because we know it’s not good for us.
Similarly, when we’re in a good creative routine, we start to crave the feeling of creating something from scratch. We want to stay away from just consuming content that someone else has made because we know that it’s not as fulfilling as creating something ourselves.
It’s important to remember that being a content creator is a journey, not a destination. There will be ups and downs along the way, but it’s the process of creating that’s truly rewarding. Embrace the struggle and use it to fuel your creativity. Remember that it’s always better to be a creator than a consumer, and that being vulnerable and honest with yourself and your audience can be a powerful tool for growth and connection.
In conclusion, creator’s block and feelings of insecurity are normal parts of the creative process. It’s important to be honest and vulnerable with yourself and your audience and to embrace the struggle. Just like going to the gym is better than consuming junk food, being a content creator is more fulfilling than just consuming content. So keep creating, keep being honest, and don’t be afraid to share your struggles with the world.
In today’s world, social media and the internet have become an integral part of our lives. From the way we interact with each other to the way we consume information, social media and the internet have transformed the way we live, work, and play. But what impact do they have on the way we raise our children? Are young people being raised by social media and the endless internet? Are they the new mentors and elders of our society? And have we, as parents, passed on the responsibility of raising our children to youth programs and schools and pop stars? In this blog post, we will explore these questions and delve deeper into the impact of social media and the internet on the way we raise our children.
Firstly, what is a mentor?
A mentor is an experienced and trusted advisor or guide who provides guidance, support, and advice to someone who is less experienced or knowledgeable in a particular area. A mentor can be a teacher, coach, family member, friend, or colleague, and they typically have a wealth of knowledge and expertise in a specific field or area of interest.
The role of a mentor is to offer support and guidance to their mentee, sharing their knowledge and experience to help the mentee achieve their goals and develop their skills and abilities. Mentors can provide a range of services, such as helping their mentee identify their strengths and weaknesses, providing feedback and constructive criticism, offering advice on career development, and helping the mentee develop new skills and strategies for success.
Mentoring relationships can be formal or informal, and can last for a short or long period of time, depending on the needs and goals of the mentee. A good mentor is someone who is patient, understanding, and willing to take the time to listen to their mentee’s concerns and offer advice and support. They should also be knowledgeable and experienced in their area of expertise, and have a track record of success in helping others achieve their goals.
Mentorship can be a valuable resource for anyone looking to improve their skills, knowledge, and confidence in a particular area, and it can be especially beneficial for young people who are just starting out in their careers or pursuing new interests and hobbies. By providing guidance, support, and encouragement, mentors can help their mentees achieve their goals and reach their full potential. This is all best case scenario…
Hello social media (MENTORS)
To begin with, it is important to acknowledge the role of social media and the internet in shaping the behavior, attitudes, and beliefs of young people. With social media platforms like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, young people have access to a wide range of information, ideas, and opinions that can shape their worldviews. They can connect with others who share their interests, learn about new cultures and perspectives, and gain exposure to new ideas and experiences. Similarly, the internet provides a wealth of information on virtually every topic imaginable, from science and history to politics and economics. Young people can explore new ideas, learn about the world around them, and develop critical thinking skills through the information available online.
However, there are also significant downsides to the pervasive influence of social media and the internet on young people. One of the most notable is the impact on mental health. Studies have shown that excessive social media use is associated with higher rates of anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues. Young people may feel pressure to conform to social norms and expectations, leading to feelings of inadequacy, low self-esteem, and social isolation. Additionally, the constant barrage of information and stimuli can lead to difficulties with attention and focus, which can negatively impact academic performance and overall wellbeing.
Pop stars have become community mentors
Pop stars have become increasingly influential role models for children and teenagers in recent years, thanks to the widespread availability and influence of social media. Popular artists such as Taylor Swift, Ariana Grande, and Justin Bieber have millions of followers on social media platforms like Instagram, Twitter, and TikTok, where they often share glimpses into their personal lives, offer advice and encouragement, and promote social causes.
One of the ways that pop stars are influencing children and teenagers is by shaping their attitudes and behaviors around important issues like body image, mental health, and social justice. Many pop stars use their social media platforms to promote positive messages around these issues, such as promoting body positivity, encouraging mental health awareness and self-care, and advocating for social and political change. By sharing their own personal experiences and struggles, pop stars can help young people to feel understood and empowered, and to develop a stronger sense of self-worth and resilience.
In addition, pop stars are increasingly using their influence and resources to directly engage with and support young people. Many artists offer meet-and-greet opportunities, host fan events and concerts, and participate in social media challenges and initiatives that promote positive behavior and social change. Some pop stars even offer mentorship and career guidance to aspiring musicians and performers, helping to launch the careers of a new generation of artists and creators.
However, while the influence of pop stars can be positive in many ways, there are also concerns about the potential negative impact of this trend. One concern is that the emphasis on celebrity culture and fame can encourage children and teenagers to prioritize popularity and social status over other important values and goals, such as education and personal growth. Additionally, the emphasis on physical appearance and image that is often associated with pop stars can contribute to unhealthy attitudes and behaviors around body image and self-esteem.
Another concern is that the influence of pop stars may be contributing to a sense of disconnection and isolation among young people. While social media can provide a sense of connection and community, it can also contribute to feelings of loneliness and disconnection, particularly when young people compare themselves to the idealized images and lifestyles presented by their favorite pop stars.
Overall, while pop stars can offer valuable mentorship and support to young people, it is important for parents and caregivers to remain involved and engaged in their children’s lives, and to help them develop a healthy and balanced perspective on the influence of media and celebrity culture. By fostering open communication, encouraging critical thinking and reflection, and providing guidance and support, parents can help their children navigate the complex and often overwhelming world of pop culture and media influence.
Social media’s effects on interpersonal relationships
Another concern is the impact of social media and the internet on interpersonal relationships. Young people may spend more time interacting with others online than in person, leading to difficulties with social skills and face-to-face communication. They may also struggle to form meaningful connections with others, leading to feelings of loneliness and disconnection. Additionally, the anonymity and lack of accountability online can lead to cyberbullying and other forms of online harassment, which can have lasting effects on young people’s mental health and wellbeing.
What are our churches and schools involvement?
Given these concerns, it is understandable to question whether we have passed on the responsibility of raising our children to youth programs and schools. After all, these institutions have become increasingly important in providing structure, guidance, and support to young people in the face of the overwhelming influence of social media and the internet. Youth programs and schools can provide a safe and structured environment for young people to develop social skills, explore new interests, and build relationships with others. They can also provide access to educational opportunities and resources that may not be available otherwise.
In recent years, there has been growing concern that children are being raised more by schools and church programs than by their parents. This trend is often attributed to the increasing demands of modern life, which can leave parents with less time and energy to devote to parenting. Additionally, the rise of technology and social media has created new challenges and distractions that can make it difficult for parents to remain fully engaged in their children’s lives.
One concern is that schools and church programs are increasingly taking on roles that were traditionally filled by parents, such as teaching values and providing emotional support. In many cases, schools and churches may be the primary sources of guidance and mentorship for children, particularly those from low-income or marginalized communities. While these institutions can provide valuable support and resources, they may not be able to fully replace the role of parents in a child’s life.
Another concern is that schools and church programs may not always align with a family’s values or beliefs. While these institutions often have well-intentioned programs and initiatives, they may not reflect the diverse needs and perspectives of all families. For example, some families may have concerns about the values or messages promoted in school curricula or church programs, and may not feel comfortable entrusting their children’s upbringing to these institutions.
In addition, there is concern that the increasing reliance on schools and church programs to raise children can have negative consequences for family dynamics and relationships. When parents feel that they have outsourced the responsibility of raising their children to these institutions, they may be less likely to prioritize quality time and engagement with their children. This can lead to a sense of disconnection and distance between parents and children, which can have long-term implications for children’s emotional and social development.
Moreover, there are concerns about the impact of this trend on children’s mental health and wellbeing. When children spend the majority of their time in school or church programs, they may not have the opportunity to develop strong bonds and relationships with their parents. This can lead to feelings of loneliness, isolation, and disconnection, which can contribute to mental health issues such as depression and anxiety.
To address these concerns, it is important for parents to remain actively involved in their children’s lives, even in the face of the demands and distractions of modern life. This can include making time for quality family time, staying informed about their children’s school and church activities, and engaging in open and honest communication with their children about values and beliefs. Additionally, parents can seek out community-based resources and support networks that can help them to balance the demands of work and parenting, and provide guidance and mentorship for their children.
So while schools and church programs can play an important role in the lives of children, it is important for parents to recognize the importance of their own role as mentors and elders in their children’s lives. By remaining actively involved and engaged in their children’s upbringing, parents can help to ensure that their children grow up with a strong sense of identity, values, and resilience, even in the face of the pervasive influence of modern technology and societal pressures.
Where DO parents come in then?
However, it is important to recognize that parents still play a critical role in shaping the development and wellbeing of their children. While youth programs and schools can provide important support and guidance, parents remain the primary caregivers and role models for their children. Parents can help young people navigate the complex and often overwhelming world of social media and the internet by providing guidance and setting boundaries around its use. They can also provide emotional support, encouragement, and a sense of belonging that may be difficult to find elsewhere.
So what can parents do to ensure that they remain the primary mentors and elders for their children, despite the pervasive influence of social media and the internet? First and foremost, parents can model healthy behaviors and attitudes around technology use. This means setting limits on screen time, avoiding excessive social media use, and prioritizing face-to-face interactions with family and friends.
Another important way that parents can remain involved in their children’s lives is by fostering open communication and dialogue around social media and internet use. By talking openly and honestly with their children about the potential benefits and risks of technology use, parents can help their children develop critical thinking skills and make informed decisions about their own technology use. This can also help parents stay informed about their children’s online activities and provide support and guidance when needed.
In addition, parents can also help their children build resilience and coping skills to navigate the challenges of social media and internet use. This can include helping children develop a strong sense of self-worth and identity, building strong family relationships and social connections, and providing opportunities for children to engage in activities that promote self-esteem and a sense of accomplishment. By building these skills and relationships, parents can help their children develop the tools they need to navigate the complex and sometimes overwhelming world of social media and the internet.
Finally, parents can also play a critical role in advocating for policies and practices that promote healthy technology use and protect children from potential harm. This can include supporting initiatives to promote digital literacy and responsible online behavior, advocating for stronger privacy protections and safeguards against cyberbullying and other forms of online harassment, and pushing for stronger regulations around the marketing of technology products to children. By taking an active role in shaping the policies and practices that govern technology use, parents can help ensure that their children are protected and supported in the online world.
Finally, parents can also play a critical role in advocating for policies and practices that promote healthy technology use and protect children from potential harm. This can include supporting initiatives to promote digital literacy and responsible online behavior, advocating for stronger privacy protections and safeguards against cyberbullying and other forms of online harassment, and pushing for stronger regulations around the marketing of technology products to children. By taking an active role in shaping the policies and practices that govern technology use, parents can help ensure that their children are protected and supported in the online world.
In conclusion, the influence of social media and the internet on young people is undeniable. While these technologies offer many benefits, they also present significant risks and challenges that can impact the mental health, social skills, and overall wellbeing of young people. As parents, it is important to recognize the role that social media and the internet play in the lives of our children, and to take an active role in shaping their use of technology. By modeling healthy behaviors and attitudes, fostering open communication and dialogue, building resilience and coping skills, and advocating for policies and practices that promote healthy technology use, parents can remain the primary mentors and elders in their children’s lives, even in the face of the pervasive influence of social media and the internet.
In today’s society, it seems as though everyone wants to be seen as creative. We often hear people talk about their “creative” ideas, or see companies marketing themselves as “innovative” and “groundbreaking.” But what does it really mean to be a creator or to tap into the spirit of Creativity? While some may view creativity as a purely human trait, many spiritual traditions believe that the act of creation is infused with a Divine breathe or spirit. In this blog post, we will explore the idea of creation and the role of spirit in it. We will delve into what it means to be a creator and how we can tap into our own creativity by connecting with the Spirit that infuses all things.
Which verses point to Creation and Creativity?
There are several connections between Genesis 1 and the work of the Spirit, as well as Exodus 31 and Bezalel’s creative work.
The Spirit’s role in creation: In Genesis 1:2, the Spirit of God is described as hovering over the waters, indicating His active involvement in the creation process. Similarly, in Exodus 31:3, Bezalel is described as being filled with the Spirit of God, giving him the wisdom, understanding, and knowledge needed to create the tabernacle and its furnishings.
The importance of creativity and craftsmanship: In Genesis 1, God creates the world with great care and attention to detail, showcasing His creativity and craftsmanship. Similarly, in Exodus 31, Bezalel is described as having “skill, ability, and knowledge in all kinds of crafts” (Exodus 31:3), enabling him to create beautiful and intricate works of art.
The value of work: In Genesis 1, God works for six days to create the world, and then rests on the seventh day, setting an example for humanity to follow. Similarly, in Exodus 31, Bezalel is given the task of creating the tabernacle and its furnishings, emphasizing the importance of work and the value of using one’s skills and abilities for a worthy purpose.
The connection between the Spirit and creativity: In both Genesis 1 and Exodus 31, the Spirit of God is closely linked with creativity and the ability to do great work. The Spirit is portrayed as the source of wisdom, understanding, and knowledge, enabling individuals to use their creative abilities to their fullest potential.
Overall, the connections between Genesis 1 and the work of the Spirit, as well as Exodus 31 and Bezalel’s creative work, emphasize the importance of creativity, craftsmanship, and work, as well as the role of the Spirit in empowering individuals to use their gifts and talents for a greater purpose.
What is God’s involvement in my creativity?
The Hebrew words “Ruach Elohim” literally mean “Spirit of God” or “Wind of God,” with “Ruach” meaning “spirit” or “wind,” and “Elohim” being one of the names of God in the Hebrew Bible.
In the context of Genesis 1, the phrase “Ruach Elohim” is used to describe the Spirit of God’s active involvement in the creation of the world. It is said that the Spirit of God was “hovering over the waters” (Genesis 1:2) before God spoke creation into existence. This suggests that the Spirit of God played a role in the creation process, bringing order and life to the formless and void earth.
In the context of Exodus 31, the Spirit of God is said to have filled Bezalel, a skilled artisan chosen to construct the tabernacle and its furnishings. This filling of the Spirit is said to have given Bezalel wisdom, understanding, knowledge, and skill in all kinds of crafts (Exodus 31:3), enabling him to create beautiful and intricate works of art that would honor God.
In both contexts, the phrase “Ruach Elohim” highlights the active involvement of the Spirit of God in bringing about God’s creative and redemptive purposes in the world.
Created to create in God’s Image
In the context of Genesis 1:26, being created in God’s image means that humans were created to reflect God’s character and nature in the world. The phrase “God created man in his own image” (Genesis 1:27) emphasizes that humans have a unique relationship with God, different from the rest of creation.
Being created in God’s image means that humans have a special dignity and worth that comes from being made in the image of the Creator. This dignity and worth applies to all humans, regardless of their race, ethnicity, gender, or social status. It also means that humans have a unique responsibility to represent God’s character and nature in the world, reflecting His love, justice, mercy, and compassion to others.
Furthermore, being created in God’s image means that humans have been given the capacity for relationship with God and with one another. Humans have been created with the ability to know and love God, to communicate with Him, and to have a personal relationship with Him. Similarly, humans have the ability to form deep and meaningful relationships with one another, reflecting God’s nature as a relational being.
So being created in God’s image is a significant and foundational aspect of human identity and purpose, emphasizing the unique dignity, worth, and responsibility that humans have been given as reflections of God in the world.
As humans created in the image of God, we have been given the capacity and ability to create in a variety of ways. In Genesis 1, God is portrayed as a creator who brought the universe into existence through His spoken word, and who fashioned the world with care and attention to detail. As image-bearers of God, we have been created to create in a similar way.
Creativity is a fundamental aspect of human nature, and it takes many different forms. Some people create through art, music, or literature, while others create through science, technology, or engineering. Still, others create through entrepreneurship, leadership, or social innovation. Whatever form creativity takes, it is an expression of our God-given ability to bring order and beauty into the world, to solve problems, and to make things better.
Furthermore, our capacity for creativity is not limited to the work we do or the things we create. We have also been created to create in the sense of procreation, of bringing new life into the world and nurturing and guiding it toward maturity.
You see, our ability to create is a reflection of God’s creative nature, and it is an essential part of our identity and purpose as human beings. As we engage in creative work and bring new things into existence, we participate in God’s ongoing work of bringing order, beauty, and purpose to the world.
In today’s fast-paced, highly competitive business world, it’s more important than ever for brands and churches to stand out and tell their unique story. Why? Because consumers are tired of being bombarded with generic, formulaic messaging that doesn’t speak to them on a personal level. They want to connect with brands that have a real, authentic message to share.
Content is king?
As Gary Vee likes to say, “Content is king, but context is god.” What this means is that in order for a brand’s message to truly resonate with consumers, it needs to be communicated in the right way and in the right context. Telling a unique story is one of the most effective ways to do this. We know this, we have all been doing this for 1000’s of years, and today, we still do this, standing around fires at our homes whether BBQ’s or braai’s or even just in our kitchens (How many deep and meaning conversations have you had in your kitchen? Right? LOADS!)
Think about it: people are naturally drawn to stories. They want to know the behind-the-scenes details of how a brand came to be, what inspired it, and what sets it apart from the competition. A brand’s story is the perfect way to give consumers that deeper level of understanding and connection.
Authentic Story Telling Matters
But it’s not just about telling a story for the sake of telling a story. A brand’s story needs to be authentic, it needs to be true, it needs to be unique and it needs to be relevant to the consumer. A brand that has a unique story to tell is one that has a clear sense of purpose and identity. It knows why it exists, and it can communicate that to consumers in a way that resonates with them on a personal level.
When a brand tells its unique story, it creates a sense of trust and loyalty with consumers. They feel like they know the brand and understand its values. This is crucial in today’s world where consumers are faced with a plethora of options and are often overwhelmed by the sheer number of choices available to them. A unique story helps a brand stand out and be remembered in a sea of sameness.
Story creates community (Shared experiences)
Another important aspect of telling a unique story is that it helps a brand to create a sense of community. When consumers feel like they are part of a brand’s story, they feel like they are part of something bigger than themselves. They feel like they are part of a movement, a tribe, a community of like-minded individuals. This sense of belonging is incredibly powerful and can create a deep sense of loyalty among consumers.
Moreover, a brand’s unique story can also serve as a powerful marketing tool. It gives the brand a way to differentiate itself from the competition and communicate its unique value proposition in a way that resonates with consumers. A unique story can be used to create compelling content, such as videos, blog posts, social media updates, and more, that can be shared across multiple platforms to reach a wider audience.
However, telling a unique story is not a one-time thing. It’s an ongoing process that requires consistent effort and commitment. Brands need to be willing to be transparent, authentic, and vulnerable. They need to be willing to share their struggles as well as their successes. They need to be willing to constantly evolve and adapt their story as their brand and the market changes. We all have that uncle that comes over every Christmas and tells us all the SAME STORY OVER and OVER and OVER. No one stops him, partly cause we don’t want to hurt his feelings but mainly cause we actually love hearing again. We love it when people tell us the stories that REALLY MATTER TO THEM.
In conclusion, telling a unique story is essential for brands, communities and churches to stand out in today’s crowded marketplace. It helps to create a deeper level of understanding and connection with consumers, build trust and loyalty, create a sense of community and serve as a powerful marketing tool. However, it’s not just about telling the story, it’s about telling it authentically, consistently, and being willing to evolve it as necessary. As Gary Vee says, “The most important thing in business is to be true to who you are, and be transparent about it.”
Churches need to be online, but often don’t know where to start. This article will help you understand the basics of digital marketing and how it can work for your church.
Digital marketing is a great way to reach local church members and attract new ones. There are several things you can do to get started, such as local church SEO, setting up a Google Business for local churches, and exploring other forms of digital advertising.
Local Church SEO
Local Church SEO is a process of optimizing your website’s content so it appears higher in search engine results when people search for local churches. To make sure your local church shows up in local searches, create an optimized profile on popular directories like Yelp and Yellow Pages. Additionally, make sure the name, address and phone number (NAP) for your local church appears prominently on all webpages — this will help ensure that search engines know what information to include in their results.
Google Business
Google business for local church
Google Business is a great way for local churches to build an online presence and make it easier for local people to find your church. With Google Business, local churches can create listings that show up in local search results. You can also provide crucial information like contact details, opening hours and more so that potential visitors can easily get the information they need.
Digital advertising or paid campaigns are another powerful way to reach local churchgoers. Digital platforms such as Facebook, Instagram, TikTok etc enable local churches to target specific demographics or interests with highly targeted ads. Ads on these platforms are often cheaper than traditional forms of advertising, making them ideal for local churches looking to maximize their budget while still reaching a large audience.
By understanding the basics of local Church SEO, digital marketing and local church advertising, local churches can make their presence known in their local community. With a well-crafted strategy, local churches can reach out to local churchgoers in an effective and cost-efficient way.
Find your UNIQUE-ness
It’s important to note that every local church is different. What works for one may not work for another. It’s important to tailor your digital strategy so it reflects the needs of your local community and its visitors. Digital marketing doesn’t have to be complicated or time consuming; with the right tools and knowledge, local churches can create effective campaigns without breaking the bank.
Take some time to review your options, identify what works best for you, and start reaching out to local churchgoers. One of the simplest ways to get started is with local SEO (search engine optimization). By optimizing your local church, you can ensure that local visitors are able to find you and learn more about your services. You can also use Google Business for local churches to list your location and contact information so local people can easily find it online.
Social media marketing
Another great way to reach out locally is through social media marketing. This will allow you to share updates about your church activities and connect with local churchgoers who are already interested in the same topics as you. Make sure to post regularly and engage with those who comment or ask questions – this will help build relationships within your local community.
Finally, don’t forget local SEO. You can increase your local visibility by creating local keywords specific to your church and using them in content you post online, such as blog posts and social media updates. This will help local search engine results prioritize your church when someone searches for local churches. Same goes for using various HASHTAGS on posts across all social media platforms. Create a unique HASHTAG that identifies who you are online.
Closing thoughts
By utilizing these tips for local church digital marketing, you can start building relationships with local members of the community and help more people find out about the services your church provides. With a little bit of effort, you’ll soon see a great return on investment from all your hard work!
