Dean Cothill

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  • The RCT Principle

    The RCT Principle

    According to the Relational Confidence Theory, everything we do has two kinds of commitment involved: task and relational. This means that if you’re not getting support from a group or someone else (like a boss), then it’s harder to stay committed to something that doesn’t want the best for you. To put it another way, it’s about our commitment to our TASKS will be relative to how CONNECTED I feel to the TEAM.

    There is a reason why former soldiers, in a study done by Dr. Xavier Amador, committed suicide after getting out of the Army but not while they were in it.

    The reason why former soldiers, in a study done by Dr. Xavier Amador, committed suicide after getting out of the Army but not while they were in it is that soldiers have a strong sense of commitment to their unit, but not to the task. This is true for many other organizations as well and can be seen in companies where people feel isolated or like they are not doing what they were hired to do. This phenomenon can cause unnecessary turnover because people don’t want to work on projects that they don’t find meaningful.

    If you have been tasked with leading an organization’s employee engagement efforts, it may help you if you understand how your employees’ minds work when it comes to working on tasks and within groups.

    There are two types of motivation: intrinsic and extrinsic. Intrinsic motivation comes from within, such as when someone is passionate about something, and extrinsic motivation comes from external factors like money or praise. The problem with extrinsic motivation is that it can be fleeting and does not always provide long-term commitment to tasks. This means that if you want employees to stay on a project, they will have to care about it in some way beyond just getting paid.

    Relational Confidence Theory states that anything we do has two kinds of commitment involved: task and relational.

    While the RCT Principle is a bit more complex than this, it can be summed up as follows:

    • Relational Confidence Theory states that anything we do has two kinds of commitment involved: task and relational. The work and the people I get to do the work with.
    • Task commitment is the reason you do something; relational commitment is the reason you do it well.
    • We need both to be successful.

    Task commitment and relational commitment are two important factors that can influence the way we approach and complete tasks. Task commitment is the reason we decide to do something. It’s the motivation that drives us to take on a project or task, and it can come from a variety of sources, such as a sense of responsibility, a desire to learn or improve, or a sense of personal accomplishment.

    Relational commitment, on the other hand, is the reason we do something well. It’s the dedication and effort we put into a task because of the impact it will have on our relationships with others. For example, we might work hard on a project for a boss or colleague because we value and respect them, or because we want to maintain a positive working relationship.

    Both task and relational commitment are important, and they often go hand in hand. When we have a strong sense of task commitment, we are more likely to put in the effort and dedication needed to complete a task well. And when we have a strong sense of relational commitment, we are more likely to take pride in our work and strive to do our best in order to maintain and strengthen our relationships with others.

    However, there may be times when one type of commitment is stronger than the other. For example, we might be highly motivated to complete a task because it’s important to us personally, but not necessarily because it will have a direct impact on our relationships with others. In these cases, our task commitment may be the driving force behind our efforts.

    It’s also possible to have low levels of both task and relational commitment. In these cases, it can be difficult to find the motivation and dedication needed to complete tasks well. This is why it’s important to identify and cultivate both task and relational commitment in our work and personal lives.

    One way to do this is to set clear goals and priorities for ourselves. By focusing on what we want to achieve and why it’s important to us, we can tap into our sense of task commitment and use it to drive our efforts. We can also think about the impact our work will have on others and how it can strengthen our relationships. This can help to cultivate a sense of relational commitment and encourage us to do our best.

    Another way to foster both task and relational commitment is to find work or projects that align with our values and passions. When we are passionate about what we do, it can be easier to find the motivation and dedication needed to complete tasks well. And when we see the value in our work and how it can benefit others, it can help to strengthen our sense of relational commitment.

    In conclusion, task commitment and relational commitment are two important factors that can influence the way we approach and complete tasks. By focusing on our goals, priorities, and passions, and considering the impact our work will have on others, we can cultivate both types of commitment and increase our motivation and dedication to do our best.

    We can do something well because we are committed to our work but don’t feel like we have anyone who is backing us up.

    Another example of when the RCT principle doesn’t apply is when you’re not really committed to your work or your organization. In this case, even though you might be doing something well, it’s not going to last. Another way of looking at this situation is that sometimes people do things well because they’re committed but don’t feel like they have anyone backing them up. That leads us back to our original point; if someone feels like they are being backed up by others, then they will do their jobs better and more consistently than otherwise!

    Without support from someone else or a group, you can end up feeling like there’s no point in doing great work. You’ll start to feel resentment toward your organization or company, which is an indicator that you aren’t really committed to it as a whole anymore either (it’s harder to be committed to something that doesn’t want the best for you).

    If you’re not connected to your team and/or task with purpose and meaning, then it’s easy for others on your team (or elsewhere) who are connected with purpose and meaning themselves to get annoyed by your lack of connection. This is especially true if they’re working hard, but their efforts aren’t being recognized by anything other than the loudest person in the room (ahem).

    Conclusion

    You need to be confident in your work and know that someone is backing you up. This will help increase your productivity as well as make you feel more satisfied with what you’re doing on a daily basis. If this sounds familiar, try reaching out to someone who can support you throughout the day – whether it’s family or friends or even just talking about how stressful things have been recently!

    Grace and Peace fam

    Keep an eye out for this video to be released soon.

    Dean

  • Why we called to climb the highest mountains…

    Why we called to climb the highest mountains…

    Hello friends, welcome to todays daily bible verse and story. On the Daily with Dean is a short inspirational devotional that I hope inspires you and sparks something in your soul. Have you ever wondered what it means to be a friend? A true Friend?

    In the scriptures we read many time about brothers and sisters in Christ, friends in the faith. Even as you read that I’m sure you can start thinking of a few people that come to mind. Some people that have always been a call away, this people that send a text right when you need it, those people who always seem to be a step ahead to give you exactly what you need.

    When my family and I go on holiday we have to put our two dogs in the kennels down the road at Sardinia Bay Kennels. So we go away for a few days and when we come back I take them to the beach right after I get them from the kennels, they smell a little, are a little dirty and actually could do with some free open spaces and just run wild. So I take them to the beach, I take them to the greatest beach in the world, I take the to Sardinia Bay.

    So when we get there its all high energy and the dogs both actually go just nuts. So my son Daniel and I get them out the car and we charge for the water. A crazy charge over the dune and we all running at full speed down the dune to the water. We get to the water, the area is clear and I can let the dogs of their leads. AND OFF THEY GO!

    Running. Playing. Swimming. Splashing. All the joy in the world. We all just loving it. Daniel and I are walking and swimming in the water, the dogs are living their best lives and just taking it all.

    So we start wrapping up and start making our way to the car, which means we have to get up that dune. So I leash up the dogs. We gather our things and we start walking.

    At first it’s easy, we’re still chatting and the dogs are coming off their high. I see Daniel is a little bit behind me and walking on his own path next time. As we keep going and as the dune gets a little steeper things get a little harder. All things that are uphill are worth while. So Daniel and I had been hatting but slowly we talk a little less and now we just focusing own trying yo get up this dune, even the dogs taking some strain.

    So we keep walking, and I turn back to see that Daniel is now walking in my footsteps. If you’ve climbed a sand dune you’ll know that its easier to walk in the sand steps of other people.

    In our lives, in our work, in our marriages, in friendships, something very special happens when someone says, “No way, me too.” Something very special happens when someone says, “Walk in my footsteps, lemme show you where to step, lemme man it easier for you…”. It was the moment that a friend of mine, named Richy for the sake of this story said to me “Bro, I’ve been where you are, and you’ll get through this…”, a Peace and a Rest settled on me. Isolation turned into connection. I felt connected.

    Jesus climbed a few mountains, and he took some committed friends with him.

    1 When Jesus saw his ministry drawing huge crowds, he climbed a hillside. Those who were apprenticed to him, the committed, climbed with him. Arriving at a quiet place, he sat down 2 and taught his climbing companions. 

    In Matthew 5 we see that Jesus climbed, and I just love that he did it with some climbing companions.

    So what mountains are you climbing? Whether at work, school, university, your home life, where are you going? and maybe more importantly, who are you going with?

    Who are your climbing companions? Who is walking with you? Whose steps are you walking in? Whose walking in your steps?

    My daily prayer for you, may you come to know that you are not alone, that Jesus is climbing with you, he’s guiding and assisting your steps and will not let you fall.

    Grace and Peace

    D